Updates on Samaah

Born on August 25, 2006, Samaah is back in Saskatoon after spending her first few days in Stollery Children's Hospital in Edmonton.

Saturday, September 30, 2006

Ramadan: a very dear guest

We have a very dear guest visiting us for a month, his name is Ramadan.
Let me tell you some thing about him

Ramadan is the month of the Qur’an (strengthening the link with Allah)
The month of the Fast (strengthening the soul and feeding it)
The month of the Night Prayer in congregation (strengthening the link with Allah and with the community)
The month of Increasing Imaan
The month of Guidance
The month of Mercy
The month of Forgiveness
The month of Wiping the Sins
The month of Duplicating the Reward
The month of Patience (to control our selves)
The month of Charity (a social responsibility)
The month of the Good Character
The month of Closeness to Allah
The month of Supplications and Submissiveness
The month of Emancipation from Hell

These are some of the features of our guest, who came to teach us and train us to be better Muslims throughout the year. So, let us practice these meanings whilst we are fasting.

Print these fifteen points on a small paper and put it in your pocket.
Check it every day and ask your self these questions:

Am I reciting the Qur’an to strengthen my link with Allah?
Am I fasting to strengthen my soul and feed it?
Am I praying the Night Prayer in congregation to please Allah and strengthen the link with the community?
Am I increasing my Imaan?
Am I seeking guidance?
Am I practicing mercy?
Am I forgiving others and seek Allah’s forgiveness?
Am I working on wiping my sins in this month and not on increase it?
Am I looking forward to Duplicate my Reward in this month?
Am I practicing patience: controlling my tongue, my eyes and my limbs?
Am I paying my obligatory Zakat and giving extra Charity?
Am I improving my character, my temper, my behaviour and my manners?
Am I drawing closer to Allah or I am distant from Him?
Am I feeling the sweetness of the supplications or it is just: Ameen, Ameen.
Am I asking Allah truly to emancipate me from Hell?

May Allah enable us to learn and benefit from this dear guest Ramadan, Ameen.

Shaykh Haytham Tamim
Chairman of Utrujj Foundation
Ramadan 1427

Thursday, September 28, 2006

Assalamu Alikum,

Allhumdulliah we got some very exciting news earlier on. Samaah's Mamima (aunt) is coming to visit us in Saskatoon inshallah this weekend! She will be staying by Samaah's bed side for the next week, giving Hassan a break : ) inshallah.....party time, by Samaah's crib! The nurses may of thought we were quiet people...I think they will be in for a suprise!

May Allah SWT grant her a safe and rewarding journey to REAL CANADA!!! May Allah SWT allow everyone of you to come and visit us in the near future inshallah. Ameen....

Dhulabhay, do you feel the pressure yet ?!

Wassalamu Alikum

assalamu alikum,

Samaah's crew red-cousin maariyah, pink scarf -
(aunt) Susmita Fupu, white-cousin ameerah, red -cousin Junayd.

Their trip to Saskatoon this summer for the birth of Samaah...who didn't quiet make it in time for their trip :) She was born after they left, Allah SWT knows best !
Assalamu Alikum,

Very shortly the first third of the holy month of Ramadaan will be over. Inshallah lets all take a moment to reflect on the goals we have set for ourselves, and see if we have achieved what we wanted to. Here is an article which I read quiet often to remind myself the importance of the tongue. It may also help us to make new goals for the next two thirds of Ramadaan.

May Allah SWT shower His mercy and blessing upon us. May He forgive us. May He make us all steadfast in our salaah and deen. May He accept our deeds. May He protect us all. May He place peace and happiness in our souls. May He grant all of you and your loved ones a spot in Jannah. Ameen

Bismillaah ir-Rahmaan ir-Raheem
Assalamu'alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa baraakatu

The tongue
Author: Unknown.

Pick your teeth! It's one of the greatest sins and yet it's something we do day after day. Sometimes we don't even realize it. You're just chatting away with your friends and you begin to talk about somebody else. Our whole lives are based around 'Home and Away' and 'Neighbors', soaps based on lying, backbiting and cheating. But look at what the Prophet (sallAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said about it:The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) was sitting with his companions one day and one of them was speaking badly about someone who wasn't there. As the man got up to leave the Prophet (sallAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said to him: "Pick your teeth!" "But I haven't eaten anything", the man protested. "No", the Prophet (sallAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said "you have eaten the flesh of your dead brother!"As Allah tells us in the Qur'an: "Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? No, you would hate it." [al-Qur'an 49:12]But what if it's true?The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) told us, "Backbiting is to say something about someone they wouldn't like said about them ... If what bad you said about them is true, then you have backbitten and if it is false then you have slandered them!" [Muslim]

If you're still not convinced of how big a sin backbiting really is, then look at the punishment Allah has in store for the backbiters. The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) described: "On the night of Miraaj (the Prophet's ascension to heaven), I passed by some people who had metal hooks in their hands and were clawing at their faces and their necks with them. I asked Jibraeel 'Who were these people?' He said 'These are the people who eat the flesh of human beings and disgrace them'" [Abu Dawud].This is how big of a sin backbiting is looked upon and yet we continue to backbite without a second thought, next time you lie, talk about somebody, remember Allah (subhanna wa ta'alaa) and the Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) and put them in front of you before you speak.

Just having a laugh! May be we think it's all right to take the mick out of someone so long as we say it to their face. We'll make fun of the way someone talks, walks, or how they look. Allah warns us against such behavior:"O you who believe, let not some men laugh at others, it may be the that they are better than you. Nor let some women laugh at others it may be that they are better than you. Nor abuse each other, nor be sarcastic to each other by using offensive nicknames..." [al-Qur'an 49:11]Don't forget that Allah made us the way we are, so how can you even think of making fun of his creation?

Cool to swear?Listen to yourself and to your friends speaking one day - nearly every sentence will have a swear word in it, thinking it's cool and macho to swear, copying the idols of TV and the cinema. Is it really 'cool' to swear? The Hellfire is far from being cool. People will wish they were cool then rather than being cool in this world.
Remember! That every time you speak , an angel writes down what you say, and that one day you will have to answer for every single word you ever uttered. So if you swear at someone then it's written down as a sin against you. You're only harming yourself. The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said that "abusing a Muslim is a sin and fighting with him is disbelief" [Muslim].

But sometimes you just have to swear! We've all been there - you're just so angry with somebody and the only way you can express yourself, is to swear at them. The solution? Don't get angry in the first place. A man came to the Prophet (saw) one day and said "Advise me". The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said "Don't become angry. Don't become angry. Don't become angry... when one of you gets angry while he is standing up, he should sit down. Then anger will leave him, and if not then he should lie down" [Ahmad].So let us follow this beautiful advice of the Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) and remember that anger is from Shaytan. If someone angers you or swears at you then don't harm yourself by doing the same but respond in a better way as Allah says in the Qur'an "Repel evil with what is better. Then he who was your worst enemy will become your best friend." [al-Qur'an 41:33]

It wasn't me who said it! How often do we say such a phrase or say that "I was only joking". We treat lies as being trivial. However we are told that Allah's messenger did not hate anything more than lying [Ahmed]. The Prophet (saw) was once asked "Can a Muslim be a coward?" He (saw) replied "Yes". He was then asked "Can a Muslim be a miser?" and the reply was "Yes". The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) was again asked "Can a Muslim be a liar?" The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) replied "No! A Muslim can never be a liar". Furthermore, he said "Truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to paradise... Lying leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the hellfire" [Bukhari].

As we know that one lie leads to another ten lies which lead to bad actions. Remember you can lie and think that you have got away with it but on the Day of Judgment your hands, tongue and feet will bear testimony against you and tell the truth.But it's only words!One day, one of the Companions asked the Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam): "O Messenger of Allah, will we be called to account for what we say?" He replied "May you be lost to your mother! People will be thrown faces down into the hellfire, only on account to what their tongues said!" [Tirmidhi]Indeed the tongue controls the rest of your body. A well controlled tongue will keep us within Islam but a loose tongue will destroy us. The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said: "When a person gets up in the morning, all the parts of his body make a plea to his tongue saying 'Fear Allah regarding us, because we follow you. If you are right then we shall also be right, and if you are wrong then we shall also be wrong'." [Tirmidhi]

Instead of swearing, lying and engaging in useless talk we can use our tongues in better ways and what better than telling people about Islam. Allah says: "Who is better in speech than one who calls (people) to Allah and works righteousness and says I am one of those who bow down in Islam" [al-Qur'an 41:33]Your tongue can save you!Indeed if you control your tongue and speak good then paradise can be yours. The Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said: "Whoever can guarantee me two things I can guarantee them Paradise". The companions asked "What, O Messenger of Allah?" He replied: "What is between his jaws (his tongue) and his legs (private parts)" [Bukhari].I must be doomed!"I have lied, backbitten people, and swear all the time. I must be going to hell!" No! Allah (subhanna wa ta'alaa) tells us in the Qur'an: "O my servants who have wronged themselves, never despair of the mercy of Allah - for truly He forgives all sins. He is the Forgiving, the Merciful." [al-Qur'an 39:53]So if you really repent and turn back to Allah and promise not to commit the sin again then truly Allah's promise is true and He will forgive you.

If you've backbitten someone - go and tell the person whom you backbitten and apologize sincerely and ask them to forgive you. But if you think that the situation will get worse then turn back to Allah sincerely begging for his forgiveness then to make up for what you said, go around and talk good of him.The best example As we know that the best person to have ever lived is the Prophet Muhammad (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) and he is the best of example for mankind. If we follow him we can never go wrong. Aisha (radiallahu 'anhaa), the Prophet's wife, described the Prophet's conduct as follows "He was neither an obscene talker nor a user of bad words. He did not shout nor did he repay evil with evil. He used to forgive people and overlook their sins" [Tirmidhi].

Final word of adviceA beautiful saying of the Prophet (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) that will ensure the protection of our tongue. The Messenger of Allah (salAllaahu 'alaihi wa salaam) said "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, LET HIM EITHER SPEAK GOOD OR KEEP SILENT!" [Agreed upon]

Tuesday, September 26, 2006

Assalamu Alikum,

Today Aaron left Saskatoon for Regina. It was sad to see them go, but we were all very excited about his new journey. Hannah (his mom) seemed a little nervous, but we are confidant that inshallah she will do well. She is a pro at his feeding, and taking care of all his needs. Hannah’s mom asked God to be with Samaah before she left. Ameen.

Samaah, Allhumdulliah has was resting as we left the hospital this evening. She had an eventful day with the nurses and doctors. May Allah SWT guide us all inshallah.

Wassalamu Alikum
Assalamu Alikum,

Allhumdulliah we heard some really good news today. Samaah’s friend Aaron from Regina will be going home tomorrow (inshallah) after 5 and a ½ weeks of being away from home. We wish him the best for the future. His mom and I have been chatting a lot about Ramadaan. She knew a fair amount about it from her friend Dr. Mustafa , who is originally from Edmonton. It has been fun being with them and we will miss both of their company.

Samaah went for a heart ultrasound today. On the way there, I carried her, while the nurse pushed her machines behind us. Mashallah it was quiet the experience! She loved the walk there, looking around and listening to the noises (while I think she was doing all that, but makes the story a lot better …). And when we got there, they were worried at first she may cry , and they wanted her to be as relaxed as possible. But than when they put the jelly on her belly and started to check her out she seemed pretty calm and relaxed. She was actually enjoying herself!

Sunday, September 24, 2006

Assalamu Alikum,

Samaah’s doctor decided to backtrack a little bit now. Since she is having a few “hiccups” with her breathing and respiratory system, they decided to let her body rest, and the heart to gain some strength inshallah. For that reason they decided to put her back onto the continuous feed and to keep her on her oxygen for a few days, before taking any more new steps inshallah. Allah SWT knows best.

Wassalamu Alikum

Assalamu Alikum,

Samaah sleeps peacefully tonight, as she enters her second day of Ramadaan this evening.

May Allah SWT shower everyone with His mercy and blessings. May He have mercy on our parents as they had mercy on us when we were children. May He make this Ramadaan more rewarding than the ones before. May He grant us peace and happiness. May He forgive us. May He guide us. May He have mercy on those before us, and those after us. May He have mercy on those who are suffering. May He accept all of our deeds as a form of Ibadaat. May He make the Qu'ran the nour of our hearts. May He save everyone a spot in Jannah. Ameen.

Assalamu Alikum,

mom and nurse chilling by her bed side last night :)

Wassalamu Alikum

Assalamu Alikum,

Ramadaan Mubarak to All! Samaah celebrates her very first Ramadaan with the nurses at the U of S Hospital Today!

Wassalamu Alikum

Saturday, September 23, 2006

Assalamu Alikum,

Allhumdulliah Samaah has moved “across the hall” from the NICU, although it is on the other side of the floor. I guess the halls in the hospital are bigger than regular hall ways, but anyways (minor details J)

She didn’t make the feeding quota, but she is getting there inshallah. Slowly but surely, so I guess they thought she was “Pediatric” material and decided she can join their elite group!

The move was something new and exciting for all of us. The best part was, she was reunited with her friend from Regina. A little boy, who was in Edmonton at the same time as her, became her new Neighbor! The little boy’s brother came over to visit Samaah today, and he looked at her, and said “she is neat”. So Allhumdulliah, we got Anthony’s approval!

The rooms are decorated nicely with the “Winnie the Pooh” theme, making the room very welcoming and warm.

The rooms allow moms and dad to stay over night with their children. So Hassan figured out his place for the next few weeks J He already took a snooze … I mean, looked after Samaah for a few hours today!

Samaah had tried the bottle again today Allhumdulliah. She is still looking confused, but not as much as before. She seems to enjoy drinking the milk for a total of 0.5 seconds! The nurses encourage us to try to feed her more, but she totally shuts her month tight, and doesn’t let anything in. So I do get confused when she does that…Hassan’s daughter shuts her mouth tight…

The stitches in her neck, chest and belly are out. They are letting it “cool down” as I would say , cause I totally did not pick up what they are saying. They thought I knew what they were talking about cause I totally went along with the conversation. But I am a good pretender. I am so sure all of you are now thinking back to all the conversations we had and wondering if I really ever understood you….you really thought your opinion counted during all those children’s program eh?! What about in MSA…actually I don’t think my opinion counted than either…

For the past few days, Samaah has been having a little issue with her oxygen level and respiratory system, but Allah SWT knows best. And whatever happens is for the best….guess it is a good reminder though, that nothing happens without the will of Allah SWT.

In halaqa once we were reading "In the Early Hours", they mentioned
1) nothing happens without the will of Allah SWT
2) you can’t make happen what Allah SWT does not will
3) what Allah SWT wills, will happen (and nothing can stop it)

I guess the top three points helps humankind put things into perspective… trust in Allah SWT, and inshallah everything will be okay.

Wassalamu Alikum

Thursday, September 21, 2006

Assalamu Alikum,

May this message reach you in the best of health and high Iman inshallah. Some very exciting events occurred last night at the hospital. Unfortunately it was the first day I did not take the camera with me to take pictures to share with everyone. Allah SWT knows best J

Event #1

Samaah, was being transferred from her bed, to her father’s lap, when there was a rumble in her belly and she decided to throw up on him! Mashallah it was quiet a sight! It was all over his left shoulders and elbows, on the chair and the floor! The nurse was very apologetic; I was more like “Score”!

Event #2

Last night, around 8 pm, the nurse introduced the bottle to Samaah. She was able to drink 5 ml from the bottle. The rest of her milk was through the pipe. The expression on Samaah’s face was priceless. She was sooooo confused mashallah. I never seen a baby look at the nurse she did. Her facial expressions kept on changing. For a full 2 or 3 mins. She was still looking at the nurse, motionless. Later on in the evening the nurse was trying to give her the soother, which she totally rejected. The nurse was saying that she probably thought something was going to come out of it again!

Event #3

Mashallah Samaah is gaining weight. After her trip to Edmonton, she lost a fair amount of weight. Now she weighs a few ounces more, than when she was born. May Allah SWT cont. to do what He believes is best. Ameen.

Event #4

Well not really an event, but since it already feels like a game show, I thought I would cont. on with the "event’s theme". The Nurses are now trying to bring her feeds to more steady intervals and increase the amount of food, which she intakes. Inshallah once she is able to stomach the food at 3 hour feeds, they will relocate her from NICU to the children’s ward.

May Allah SWT reward and bless all of you. May He cont. to allow you to work for His sake. May He accept all of your actions as a form of Ibadaat. May protect you. May He place peace and happiness into your hearts. May He allow this Ramaadaan to be the most rewarding. May He reunite us all in Jannah. Ameen.
Wassalamu Alikum

Wednesday, September 20, 2006

I asked Hassan if Samaah looks more like him or Naila. His reply?

"She is more like Naila.. to be exact, like her family in general. Some people have tried to balance things out by attributing certain non-attributable features like eyes, nails, etc to me. The eyes are very dark but kiddy eyes change a lot..so don't know yet... :D"

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

ASsalamu Alikum,

Dad and Daughter :)

Wassalamu Alikum

Assalamu Alikum,

Samaah smiling for the camera :) Ramadaan Mubarak to all !

Wassalamu Alikum
Assalamu Alikum,

Samaah being the bright girl she is, just pulled out her continuous feeding tube out of her nose...

this isn't the first time she pulled out a tube, she kicked out her IV a few times :)

Wassalamu Alikum

Tuesday, September 12, 2006

I just received a message from Naila. They are transporting Samaah back to Saskatoon insha Allah. Allah knows best.

As for Samaah's health, she's doing better Alhamdullilah. They have removed all machines from her and only her feeding tube remains.

Naila and Hassan are now packing and preparing to return to Saskatoon. May Allah make the journey easy for them. Ameen.

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

An update from Kashif

I just finished speaking with Hassan. He was on the way to the airport to pick his mother-in-law up who is arriving in Edmonton today. Both Hassan and Naila seemed to be in high spirits, Alhamdulillah.

As you all are aware, Samaah had a major surgical procedure last Thursday, August 31 (see the August 27/29 post). This was followed-up with a minor surgery yesterday. After the August 31 surgery, there was normal post-operative swelling and inflammation around Samaah’s heart. Consequently, the surgeons had decided to leave Samaah’s ribcage open and kept her on some medications to allow the swelling to normalize. Alhamdulillah, they felt confident that the swelling had subsided yesterday, and decided to mechanically close the ribcage yesterday. This is the surgical procedure that was completed yesterday.

Since the surgery, Samaah seems to be doing well. She is still on several medical support systems, including the ventilator, TPN (total parenteral nutrition – feeding a person through infusions directly into the blood stream), as well as some drugs which are keeping her blood vessels open so that the heart may continue to be well-perfused.

The physicians in general are quite happy with Samaah’s progress, Alhamdulillah. However, it is still not clear how long Samaah will need these supports to be in place, and only time will tell. Keep remembering little Samaah in your duas.

Monday, September 04, 2006

All praise is due to Allah.

Samaah is alhamdulillah doing very well. She had the last procedure done on her today. I don't have all the details but it was successful. Her heart is now able to function normally, though they will gradually remove life support, to ease her heart to full functionality. Hassan was really, really happy... you could sense the jump in his voice.

Samaah is "drugged up" right now, according to Hassan and will continue to be on medication to facilitate blood flow... I guess we will get Kashif to do a more detailed update...

Friday, September 01, 2006

Just spoke to Hassan on his way to Jummah.

Masha Allah, Samaah is doing well post-surgery. She had a couple of "hiccups" during the night, but doctors had expected those potential changes in her condition.